“You’ve got me fighting every night to prove my love.” – Frank Ocean, Dying For Your Love
Have you ever found yourself fighting to prove your love for someone? You do everything your common sense tells you not to in the name of love, or that’s what you tell yourself. My question: should you have to fight to prove your love? Doesn’t loving someone enough? Why should I argue with other women on social media? Why do I need to post pictures to show that you were with me? Let me tell you what fighting to prove your love does. It makes you look foolish and inevitably in the end your love will not prevail. You will be alone and still trying to justify your actions. Love really should not be a battle. Love should be simple. Well, true love. As I reflect upon my life, I realize I have always found myself at some point trying to prove my love, trying to convince a man that I was worthy enough. You have to pick and choose your battles. And at the tender age of twenty-nine, I feel fighting for the love of someone is a waste of time. More than likely that person is not even worth it. The funny part is you know, YOU KNOW, that is it is not worthy of your time, tears, and energy. Why in the hell should I lay hands on another woman when you will just end up with her at the end of the night? Now, my dumbass is in jail for assault because I wanted to prove I love that man more than anyone, and I am the deserving one. Tattooing their name on you proves nothing, too. Love should prove itself. I shouldn’t have to jump through fiery hoops and walk on a damn tightrope to gain your love. What is even crazier to me is if you surrender and wave you white flag, you are looked down upon as if you gave up. It’s a losing battle. It will always be a losing game. As soon as you get smacked with the harsh truth, I suggest you retreat as fast as you can. Get out of that situation because no good will come of it. If a person tells you that they love you and want to be with you, there should be no reason why you need to fight. Love each other and be together. And if you have to compete with someone else, the love was never genuine in the first place. To be truthfully honest, I don’t know what love is. But I know for sure that having to fight for it is not right. It’s a vicious cycle of being bitter, hurt, and insecure. You are truly worth more than that. Don’t let anyone make you feel differently. I believe everyone is deserving of pure, genuine love. I understand that relationships have their rough patches but you should never feel like you have to put Vaseline on your face and fight. I am no relationship expert. I am a single, pregnant woman. I can only share my experiences.
Yours Truly
Kaz
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